7am Wednesday morning and I’m watching the sun rise over the city again from my room. It’s a very clear morning so the view is outstanding. I’ve actually had two pretty busy work days so it’s been a little tough to explore the city all that much. Monday I went into the office, which is just a block from the hotel, at about 8am.
When I came out here, I was told the team of actuaries was comprised of 8 people, 2 Brits, 2 Aussies, 2 Canadians, and 2 Koreans. It didn’t occur to me that it really meant that the team was 8 people of Korean descent, but that some of them had moved with their families to other countries and subsequently returned here to work. So I stick out like a sore thumb much more than I thought I would, and Korean is spoken the whole time in the office. I do sometimes feel like a zoo animal both around the city and in the office with getting so much attention. People are just curious, especially since there’s a very small foreign population in Korea. Like London, it’s an open office, so it’s very busy and lively, which I really enjoyed when I was in London. Of course, I can’t interact with everyone as easily, or understand what everyone’s working on through hearing the conversation, since it’s all in Korean. However, it still makes for an enjoyable environment.
The one word I can regularly understand when someone says it is “Chandler”. Why? Because at my first meeting, the whole team agreed I look exactly like Matthew Perry and thought it was hilarious. I’m serious, when one guy on the team mentioned it, about 10 minutes of giggling followed. So I’m now officially called Chandler by everyone in the office. I’ll be working away and a couple people will be talking nearby in Korean, which of course I don’t understand a word of, but then I’ll hear “Chandler”, followed by a lot of giggling. So I start giggling. This is further proof that a sense of humor and willingness to laugh at oneself is instrumental to enjoying a very different environment. Whenever someone stops by my desk to introduce themselves, a couple younger associates from the team run over and ask them who I look like. One guy who stopped by yesterday evening was asked and couldn’t come up with the desired answer and they told him, his response was, and I quote, “he’s much more attractive than Chandler”. Awkward, but leads me to my next point.
Koreans are very openly affectionate to each other and also aren’t shy about topics of relationships. When walking through the streets, it’s very common to see two guys or two girls walking hand in hand or arm in arm. This is pretty popular in most Asian cultures.
I’ve been very shy and hesitant to try to use the language, mainly because it’s very difficult on many levels. I really haven’t gotten past “Hello”, “Thank you”, and a couple of numbers. The fact that the alphabet is not Romanic makes it difficult to visualize what you’re saying, and of course, tons more difficult to try to read. The couple times I’ve tried to use Korean words, people do light up and treat me better, but it’s still been a difficult go. I really try to stay away from rants on this blog, but one of my biggest pet peeves is when there is a foreigner in my country who doesn’t have a complete grasp of English, but is trying, is occasionally met with a, “This is America, learn the language or get out.” My guess is that anyone who would say something along those lines has never really been in a very different culture, so they don’t have an appreciation of how difficult it is to learn a new language. I just couldn’t envision anyone here ever saying to me “This is Korea, learn the language or get out”. I spent all of yesterday saying “Ham-Sa-Ham-Ni-Da” to everyone rather than “Kam-Sa-Ham-Ni-Da” (which is the correct pronunciation of “Thank you”). It was basically the equivalent of telling everyone “Pank You” in English, which I’m sure would ruffle some feathers, but when I butchered the basics of their language, it didn’t bother anyone here, they appreciated the effort.
Anyway, I left the office about 6:30pm Monday and was pretty near zombie state from the jetlag and the long day at work. I knew if I went to my hotel room I’d pass out immediately, so even though it was very cold out (probably about 30 degrees) and I only had a suit jacket, I decided to wander around the city. First I walked down this stream that goes through the center of the city, called the Cheonggyecheon. It has all this large Korean style paper statues, lit up on rocks in the river, along with stepping stones every 30 yards or so, for crossing the river.
From there, I made my way down some of the market streets. I was shocked at how alive they were, given the freezing temps. There were lots of outdoor vendors, the car-less streets were very crowded, but not over-crowded, and there were lively atmospheres at all of the restaurants and bars. Eventually by about 9pm, I was cold enough and thoroughly lost, so I wandered my way back towards the hotel, but stopped off in a little Chinese restaurant for a bite. That’s where I had a bit of a slip up. I ordered my meal fine, even using the Korean numbers to pick the dish I wanted. I was asked what I wanted to drink. Wanting to enjoy the local flavor, I saw that there was Soju on the menu. Soju is a Korean vodka that is quite by far the most popular adult beverage here. I knew that it sometimes came in a 16 ounce sized bottle, but saw that the price was the same as the beers, so figured it was a smaller version. When I ordered it, the waiter gave me a confused look, but accepted the order and came back with one of the full sized bottles and a shot glass. I immediately understood his confusion and was a bit embarrassed. So I laughed about it, had about a quarter of the bottle along with my meal and went back to the hotel.
Yesterday I got into the office at about 7:45am and didn’t realize until at least an hour later that the typical Korean work day starts at about 9am, much like London. So I was alone in the office for a good hour. That day for lunch, a couple of us went to a traditional Korean restaurant where they serve Bi-bim-babs, a big bowl that has a layer of rice at the bottom and is topped with layers of vegetables and pork that are neatly arranged in quadrants. You get a long spoon and mix up all the ingredients. Igo a kimchi jumul luck bebimbab and it was incredibly delicious and quite spicy. This evening or tomorrow evening, we’re probably going to go out for Korean bbq, which I’ve really been looking forward. Friday night we’re supposed to have a big night out with the office, a combination of my leaving drinks along with welcoming drinks for a girl that just started this week.
I was at the office a bit late again on Tuesday night, but remembered to bring some extra layers of clothing so I could do some exploring that night. It was a crisp, cold night, but I certainly couldn’t just go back to the hotel room (the forecast this week is for highs in the lower 40’s all week. Last week was in the 60’s, next week will be in the upper 50’s. Oh well). I can’t stress enough how friendly everyone is here, both in the office, and even out in public. The Koreans are a little reserved, so I definitely get a warmer reception at the office where people know a little about my background and why I’m in Seoul. As I was packing up, everyone was shouting out their recommendations for what I should do and see that evening. I mentioned that I needed to buy my train ticket for my trip to Pusan on Saturday and one of them quickly shut their computer down, grabbed her coat and walked me to one of the train stations. It’s just how people are here, extremely nice and helpful, no questions asked. She knew that both a) I’d probably never find the ticket booth (and she was right) and b) the guy at the booth would speak very little English (also true), so she ordered the ticket for me and saved me an immense amount of trouble, confusion, and frustration. There are two reasons why I never would’ve found the ticket booth. First, it was small and tucked away, and secondly, there is an intense network of underground subways, shopping areas, market, restaurants, etc, all below street level. My Aunt Jody gave me a heads up on the setup, but it was much more advanced than I imagined.
Once I got the ticket, my colleague was on her way and I went over to the Deoksugung Palace, which like the Tower of London, was the home of the royal family through much of the 1500’s to 1700’s. The grounds also host the national art gallery. It was almost chilling to walk through the area for a number of reasons. I was basically the only person on the campus other than a few guards. It was a eerily dark, chilly evening with a crisp breeze. There was ancient Korean music piping out of speakers throughout the park. And it’s nestled in a downtown area, surrounded by skyscrapers, making it very surreal to walk and look at these old palaces. The structures are very intense and immaculate. I took a bunch of pictures, but I forgot my USB to get them uploaded, and my camera doesn’t take the best night pictures. So you’ll have to wait until I get home to see them.
Being that it was late and I didn’t want to get a full meal, I wandered into a 7-11, yes a 7-11, got a little Korean ramen cup to go and an Asahi and went back to my hotel room to crash. Anyway, I need to head off to the office now.
Phil